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  • When Great Trees Fall: Funeral Pre-Planning in an Age-Friendly Community

    When Great Trees Fall: Funeral Pre-Planning in an Age-Friendly Community

    We all have different ways of acknowledging that we will one day leave this mortal life. Though the when and the how is often unknown, it is possible to prepare for the inevitability. Preparation helps ensure peace of mind and minimize the emotional challenges that are typically associated with decision making at the time of loss.

    Your Pine Knoll Shores Council on Successful Aging recently hosted a forum regarding end-of-life arrangements at the A.C. Hall Municipal Building. Mr. Steve Odom, an owner and the General Manager of Munden Funeral Home, provided a thorough review of the steps required in planning for your farewell.

    The Importance of End-of-Life Pre-Planning

    Mr. Odom stressed the importance of pre-planning. Begin with a written review of your life and these legal documents:

    • Last Will and Testament.
    • General Power of Attorney.
    • Health Care Power of Attorney (directs your representative to aid or make decisions regarding your health care).

    Have an honest conversation with your chosen representative so your final wishes will be honored.

    Financial and Legal Considerations

    Pre-planning should review the financial implications of your choices, but it does not mean you must pre-pay for services in advance.

    Biographical Information to Gather

    Another key step is assembling biographical information for death certificates, obituaries/announcements, and the orderly transfer or closing of assets:

    • Full name, date and place of birth.
    • Education and employment history.
    • Family members and religious affiliation.
    • Military service.
    • Other pertinent details you want conveyed.

    Types of Funeral Services

    Funeral services can be simple or more involved and can be customized for the individual and family. Personalization may include:

    • Video tributes.
    • Religious services with after-service receptions and catering options.
    • Fallen Hero Programs for law enforcement officers.
    • Military services for honorably discharged retirees and veterans.

    How Funeral Homes Can Help

    Funeral homes are familiar with pre-planning requirements, including location/type of burial (in- or out-of-state, out of country, or Veteran cemetery), laws on distribution of cremated ashes, and management of organ or anatomical donation.

    Final Thoughts

    While the many decisions can feel overwhelming, discussing your plans with funeral service experts can provide comfort that your wishes are understood and will be honored—and it spares your family difficult decisions at a challenging time.

    Mr. Odom’s presentation was videotaped and can be found on our website.

    Your Pine Knoll Shores Council on Successful Aging will continue to seek out topics and resources to connect you, our residents, with solutions to aging gracefully and successfully in place. Help us help others. Please share this information.

    *Credit is due to Maya Angelou for the title from her poem, “When Great Trees Fall,” as she reminds us: “…when great souls die, after a period, peace blooms …our senses …whisper to us… they existed… we can be better… for they existed.”

  • Estate Planning: Some Actionable Items

    Estate Planning: Some Actionable Items

    I believe it is fair to say that many of us have experienced the loss of close relatives and friends who, for perhaps many reasons, never got around to making a will. And the subsequent fallout from this lack of planning may have created complications for those remaining relatives and friends who hadn’t a clue as to the person’s final wishes.

    Estate planning forum

    On Thursday, April 25, 2024, our Council hosted a forum at PKS Town Hall to provide us with an overview of the estate planning process. Guiding us through the questions to be asked, and decisions to be made in creating a detailed plan, we were pleased to welcome Andrew Foster, Attorney from the Law Firm of Harvell and Collins, P.A.

    Mr. Foster began by listing the various documents necessary for a properly executed estate plan. These documents, with brief definitions, include:

    Last Will & Testament (LW&T)

    This is your declaration as to where your assets will go when you die. The LW&T identifies an Executor, a trusted person to whom you confer a fiduciary responsibility to carry out your decisions.

    Durable General Power of Attorney

    This establishes an Agent, a person you designate to act for you in managing your financial and other personal affairs in the event you become unable to do so.

    Health Care Power of Attorney

    This establishes a Health Care Agent, a person you designate to make health care decisions for you in the event you become unable to do so.

    Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) Release

    This item designates a person or persons who have your permission to access your health care records.

    Declaration of Advanced Directives for a Natural Death (Living Will)

    Perhaps one of the most thought-provoking of these documents. This provides your health care providers with directions about prolonging your life in the event you experience a terminal and incurable condition, a persistent vegetative state or advanced dementia.

    How to set up these documents

    As these are considered legal documents, it is prudent to seek advice from legal counsel. Establishing a relationship with an attorney who specializes in the practice of estate planning can serve as an invaluable resource in guiding your decisions.

    Estate planning checklist

    Preparing an Estate Planning Checklist is a good place to start your conversation with counsel, and should at least include:

    • An inventory of your assets, including home and land, cash, stocks, bonds, etc. with type of ownership (individual or joint).
    • An inventory of all life insurance policies, IRAs and annuities held, and include beneficiary designation forms filed.
    • A listing of debts and liabilities.
    • A list of your heirs, such as your spouse, children, parents, other relatives, friends, charitable organizations.
    • The name of an Executor, the trusted person who will carry out your decisions in a responsible manner.
    • The name of the person who will serve as Executor, Trustee and Guardian if there are minor children.

    While this list is a very objective, matter-of-fact approach to planning for the future disposition of your possessions, it is most important to communicate this plan to those who will be your heirs—or not. Conversations concerning your wishes are awkward and can be very emotional, but they are crucial to a well-executed estate distribution.

    Final thoughts

    Mr. Foster provided examples of successful estate plans, and some that weren’t so successful. His presentation was videotaped and can be found on our pkscouncilonsuccessfulaging.com/ website. I encourage you to view it. The information he shared can help in guiding your declarations.

    Your Pine Knoll Shores Council on Successful Aging will continue to identify topics and resources to connect you, our residents, with solutions to aging gracefully in place. Please share your experiences and ideas with us.